“But from that moment on, Hermione Granger became their friend. There are some things you can’t share without ending up liking each other, and knocking out a twelve-foot mountain troll is one of them.” (From Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone by JK Rowling)
Motherhood can seem like knocking out a twelve-foot mountain troll. It’s hard to do, you don’t have enough experience, and it’s scary. I think that’s why new moms need each other. I think that’s why we can become instant friends. It is a wonderful thing to be encouraged by another mom, to hear her say that I’m doing a good job. And it’s an incredible feeling to be able to say to someone else, “It will get better. You’re doing great.” Encouragement. Help. Friendship. Not the random advice of strangers, but the heartfelt empathy and understanding of a friend in the trenches. From the moment another mom gives you the courage for one more day or night (there’s no difference between day and night at first, you know) of nursing and rocking and soothing and diapering by sharing her story or listening to yours or saying those three magic words (“You’re doing great”), she becomes your friend.